I want you to know that making a six or seven-figure salary and being a good parent (and husband) IS NOT AN EITHER-OR DECISION...
Here's how you can achieve both...
Be a Present-Parent
Sam is a client of mine. Sam used to tell himself, "If I make more money, then I'll have more time to spend with my family." So he put in more time at the office, chasing the money. But where did he find that extra time to hustle in his business? Afterall, it had to come from somewhere. Without realizing it, he was stealing time from his family. He was spending less time with his family so that he could eventually spend more time with his family. His three daughters grew up resenting him and, when they hit their teen years, didn't want him in their lives. Were they to blame? For the past 10 years, he wasn't "present" as a dad in their lives.
Like Sam, many of us trick ourselves into this type of thinking: more money = more time. I find that life doesn't work this way. Here's the problem ----- your priorities are backwards. Ask yourself, why do many of the wealthiest people you know have broken relationships with their spouse and kids? Why have many of them been through painful divorces? They have the money. They have the cars. They have the big house. They have the boat. Some even have the private jet. They have it all BUT they don't have what really matters ----- a loving relationship with their spouse and their kids.
Become a Present-Spouse
John is a friend of mine. John was an excellent provider for his family. He even bought his wife the $3.4M waterfront home she always dreamed of having. He made sure she always had the newest Mercedes. He took it upon himself to make her happy. The downside was that he was always on-call for his clients' surgeries. He was a provider-husband but not a present-husband. John was headed for an expensive divorce and didn't even see it coming. When his wife told him she wanted a divorce, he was in complete shock. He told me, "Joseph, I don't get it! I've given her EVERYTHING she's ever wanted! I've been a good husband. Why is she trying to ruin me?"
Unfortunately, I couldn't help John back then because God didn't have me doing spiritual coaching yet. As expected, his wife did divorce him and financially ruined him... And she kept the waterfront home. He had to rebuild his fortune. It was very sad to watch. Again, there's the problem ----- John had his priorities backwards.
Shift Your Priorities
It's not your job to make your spouse happy, that responsibility belongs to them (and God).
Your responsibility is to get yourself, your spouse and your kids to heaven. You do that by FIRST growing in Holiness yourself, which makes it possible for you to become a "spiritual reservoir" for your family. You cannot pour into others what you do not have yourself. Holiness (growing your relationship with God) is your DUTY, obligation and responsibility.
Align your calendar with God's Hierarchy ----- God FIRST, wife SECOND, and kids THIRD.
What does this stir up in you? Please tell me in the comments below (I read ‘em all)
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