Pedro Adao spent half his life trying to win his father’s approval. As a kid, he only experienced “tough love.” His father worried about making sure Pedro ended up successful, but that meant criticizing him at every turn. A B+ wasn’t good enough on a math test. He needed to get an A. Having a steady job wasn’t good enough. He needed to make six figures.
So, trying to fill the heart wound left by his father, Pedro started a career in financial services. Watch any movie about Wall Street, and you know the financial services industry is full of cut-throat strategies and high-performance goals.
Pedro even began investing in real estate on the side. His only motivation was to be more and more successful… except more was never enough. He made some risky investments and eventually ended up $3 million in debt.
The bottom fell out.
Do you know why? It was because Pedro was suffering from heart wounds.
Before becoming a successful coach for Christian women, Cherlyn Decker lived your typical, hectic corporate life. As a mother, she felt guilty for not spending enough time with kids. She felt that her company job left her unfulfilled, and she was embarrassed to admit that she was afraid to leave her cushy salary and benefits.
Cherlyn kept the inner mess hidden from her friends and family. But then she was laid off, and quickly hit rock bottom. She lost the security she held so tightly before. She spent weeks at home wondering what in the world she was going to do.
One day after being laid off, she was laying on the couch reading a coaching book. Her husband came in and said, “You know, you should do that.” All of a sudden, Cherlyn was struck with a renewed sense of purpose. Coaching WAS what she was supposed to do. The thing that was keepin her back was HER and HER FEARS. She was afraid of the “no,” the unanswered phone calls and rejections.
So, Cherlyn started sharing her story. She opened her mess up to the world. Not only did she share her mess, she shared how God was leading her out of her mess. And people responded. Now she’s running a successful coaching business for Christian women.
But looking back on that time, Cherlyn sees how that period of waiting changed her. God transformed her through the layoff. She couldn’t have started her new business without slowing down and listening for the truth.
Read on for Cherlyn’s top three tips for waiting on God, and how YOU can make the most of a season of rest.
Joe Condit is a successful serial entrepreneur and the founder of CatholicSpeakers.com. He shared with me his top three tips for conquering hardship.
1. Don’t Lose Focus on What’s Important.
Money can be stolen and public opinion can change overnight. Neither fortune nor fame lasts forever. Instead, faith is what lasts and carries you through the valleys of life.
One of life’s strongest temptations is to lose focus on faith when times are good. When we’re enjoying times of blessing, we become spiritually lazy. We worship God’s blessings instead of God himself. We make money an idol and make ourselves miserable in pursuit.
Then when we realize we’re miserable chasing money, we make the mistake of digging even deeper. We say, “Happiness is right there around the corner. I can almost see it.” However, worldly pleasure will never satisfy no matter how much you of it you get. The enemy is going to tempt you with everything he can: sex, porn, drugs, self-centeredness, money, overwork. Don’t believe the lie that “just a little bit more” will be enough.
People who focus on God above all have peace. People who focus on money and pleasure do not. True, godly business owners still have as many problems as the next person, but they have peace. When hardship comes, stay calm and don’t lose focus on God.
Earlier this year, my wife and I had our first child, a beautiful baby girl named Alora. She’s brought my little family so much joy. There’s no better feeling than holding her in my arms and telling her how much I care about her. But sometimes God brings us the greatest blessings through the hardest trials.
My wife suffered in labor for over 36 hours. I mean it when I say suffered. Every few minutes I would hear her cry out as another contraction pierced her body. There I was in the waiting room, and I felt utterly helpless. My inner control freak was on high alert. I had no idea if my wife or my new daughter would make it through the birth.
These were some of the hardest hours of my life. I know what you’re thinking, “Hey Joseph, what about your wife?” True, I can’t imagine the pain she was going through. But that doesn’t change the fact that I was the most scared and helpless I’d ever been.
Grant Cardone, the high-performing, no-nonsense entrepreneur and speaker, says, "I'm going to do anything and everything, remove every boulder, every hurdle and every problem out of my way to make my dreams come true."
As a man, that quote puts a spark in my blood. When I hear talk of overcoming hurdles and problems to achieve something truly meaningful, I’m ready to go.
Try it. Picture yourself as the underdog. Your eyes are focused. You wake up early to start making cold calls to get ahead of your competition. When a top prospect says no the first time, you keep pressing. You’re confident that your product is going to solve their main problem. And you make the sale.
Business is like a battle. It’s an arena men can enter to achieve success. So many men look up to entrepreneurs like Grant Cardone because he lives out this unapologetic masculinity.
A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Chris Salem
A few months ago, I had serious pain in my back. It was affecting my mood, relationships, and business. The chronic pain was wearing me down. Before the pain, I was excited to put in that extra hour growing my spiritual coaching business. But with the pain, all I wanted to do was lay down and sleep it off.
I went to a spinal specialist. Here’s what he didn’t do. He didn’t give my a prescription for hydrocodone and say, “Good luck!”
NO WAY. That would be treating the symptoms, not the issue below the surface. Even if I didn't feel the pain, my spine would have still been jacked. When you go to a specialist, you expect them to address the root of your health problems. My spine specialist didn't treat my pain, he realigned my back.
SO WHY DO WE TREAT OUR BUSINESS PROBLEMS WITH PAIN KILLERS INSTEAD OF SURGERY? An example of business hydrocodone is saying, "I just need more revenue and then I'll turn a profit" or "If my partner was competent, we'd be in the black."
Sorry to break it to you, but 99 percent of the time these aren't the true problems. The problems lie inside you, and it's time to get to work.
In my podcast episode with Chris Salem, Chris shares his three tips for doing the inner work and making $800,000K a year.
A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Tim Storey
Imagine you’re hiring a new VP of sales for a Fortune 500 company. You’re deep into the first round of interviews.
Your secretary leads in the next candidate. He’s clearly in his 70s or 80s, not the fresh blood you were expecting to lead the department. But you can’t discriminate against age and you know it's good to keep an open mind.
You pull his resume out of a folder. To your astonishment, it shows no experience for the last 40 years. Ok, he managed a regional grocery store in rural Indiana. Looks like his father-in-law owned the flagship store and did a favor for a family member.
You move to his application file. He’s checked the “felony” box. For murder.
Question: Do you hire this man as VP of Sales?
God “hires” the most unlikely people
Would you believe it if I told you that the story above describes Moses from the Bible? The same Moses who freed Israel from Egyptian slavery? The same man who almost saw the face of God?
It’s true. Moses spent forty years of his life herding sheep in the wilderness. God called him to free the Israelites at 80 years old. When he was younger, Moses killed a man.
My friend and coach extraordinaire, Tim Storey, explains what God is doing with improbable candidates like Moses. Tim says, “God uses shaky people to do sturdy projects. As you abide in him you’ll grow stronger, and stronger, and stronger each day.”
God uses broken, lowly, frightened people to do his good work.
Moses isn’t the only example. Saint Paul imprisoned and killed people before his conversion. Rahab was a former prostitute who is listed in the genealogy of Jesus. When we first come upon Gideon, who later becomes a heroic Israelite commander, he’s hiding from his oppressors in a wine press.
What about you? Have you ever felt like your personal resumé disqualifies you from important work?
Maybe you think, “My family life is so messed up, I could never be a dad.” Or, “If anyone knew about my addictions, I’d be shunned from every social group imaginable!”
Startup Nation, here’s the truth…
God does not treat us as our sins deserve
WHAT A RELIEF!
Tim Storey explains, “God isn’t looking at you with a magnifying glass to expose your weaknesses.” He wants to embrace us with his life-changing love.
I understand the church gets a bad rap for blaming “sinners” like you and me. The church sometimes says that if you fix yourself, then God will love you. If you obey perfectly, then God will accept you.
Don’t believe this lie. The opposite is true.
God first accepts you, inviting you into a relationship with him. This love is what transforms your life. It's what gives you the strength to do good and love others. Earlier in this post, I mentioned all those Bible characters. The thing that set them apart from your average person was that they trusted God. God asked them to follow him and they did. They didn’t have everything figured out. They just trusted God step by step.
Coaches like Tim and me like to model our coaching off God's example. I’d say God provides a pretty good blueprint.
In Tim's approach, he doesn’t bring up weaknesses until week 3 or 4. Instead, he focuses on the person’s strengths. He discusses the nature of God and who he is. And the Bible says that God is love.
Tim is known as the “Pastor to the Stars.” He’s walked alongside celebrities like Robert Downey Jr. and Kanye West. He takes broken people on a journey toward Jesus. Healing happens on this journey. It’s where true success lies.
If you're struggling with a checkered past, here’s a practical question for you: What’s working in your life?
I use this question to start my coaching sessions. It shifts the conversation away from shame toward positive things. I know for a fact that you’re doing something right in your business life. I know that no matter how bad your relationship is, there’s something you still do that makes your spouse smile.
What is it? Make a list of three positive things that are working in your life and post that list above your desk. Meditate on the things that are working. After all, God is working in your life. And he is good.
God uses shaky people to do sturdy projects. As you abide in him you’ll grow stronger, and stronger, and stronger each day.
If you’re ready, I want to build you up and encourage you in your business, family, and faith. I can help you reclaim your joy and start on a journey back to God.
It’s time for a Spiritual Clarity Call.
It’s simple. You and I will jump on a no-cost, 45-minute Zoom call. We will find a time that’s convenient for you.
Typically, a coaching call like this would run about $500. For you, it’s free.
Obviously, the benefits of a Spiritual Clarity Call go much deeper. On our call, we can discuss one or two actionable steps for realigning your personal life with your business life.
After a full coaching boot camp, my clients have avoided devastating divorces, escaped long-term addictions, and overcome serious depression. My clients have also negotiated raises at work, rediscovered their life purposes, and reconnected with their kids. Over time, these positive changes could save you $1,000s.
But both you and I know that your life isn’t measured by a price tag. Your life is about the people you love and the purpose for which you were created. If you feel like you’re missing out in either of these areas, we need to talk.
Ready to get clarity on your life? Click the button below and set up a Spiritual Clarity Call.
Pastor And World-Class Coach, Tim Storey, Shatters The Source Of Your Anxious Desires With One Simple Truth
A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Tim Storey
Tim Storey is known as the “Pastor to the Stars.” He works with celebrities like Oprah, Robert Downey Jr., and Kanye West. He’s one of the most thoughtful, genuine men I know.
Recently, he shared a lifechanging lesson about slowing down and overcoming anxiety. A stranger taught him this lesson, and it has been so inspirational to him that he thinks about this person every week.
I can promise you, Startup Nation, this person is not who you’d expect.
Behind the Curtain with Joseph Warren
Startup Nation, today I’m going to share a story, and it’s going to be a story about Jesus. I know not all my listeners are Christian or even religious. That’s ok. But this story reveals a critical mindset that allows entrepreneurs like you to overcome tiredness, frustration, and depression.
One day Jesus was on a mountain teaching a large crowd of people. He was teaching them about how to live and about who God is. This crowd wasn’t full of professors, or priests, or billionaires. These were regular people like you and me.
Jesus understood the problems facing regular people. He knew that we worry. We worry about jobs, and food, and clothing. So, to encourage the crowd of listeners, he said, “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’… But seek first [God’s] kingdom and his righteousness, and all of these things will be given to you as well.”
Behind the Curtain with Joseph Warren
Startup Nation, I want to invite you to join me on a free Spiritual Clarity Call. There are a lot of business coaches who can guide you in pitching investors or marketing your product. But few coaches address the heart-level issues that affect our business and personal lives.
The reason I’m passionate about spiritual coaching is because I get to see behind the entrepreneurship curtain. Some of my coaching clients make tens of millions in annual revenue. They own the Ferraris and the beachfront condos. From the outside, they look like they’re absolutely killing it.
But I’ll tell you looks can be deceiving. I’ve seen it firsthand. For all the money and success my friends have achieved, they’re miserable. I see the pain and sorrow so many entrepreneurs struggle with. And maybe this sounds a little too familiar.
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About Joseph Warren
Joseph Warren is a Christian Speaker, Podcast Host and Spiritual Coach. Joseph Warren offers Spiritual Coaching to Christian Business Owners who somehow find themselves in a spiritual rut. In just 90 days, he helps them avoid expensive divorces, break free from addiction, restore broken family relationships, and start living their Higher Purpose!