Pedro Adao spent half his life trying to win his father’s approval. As a kid, he only experienced “tough love.” His father worried about making sure Pedro ended up successful, but that meant criticizing him at every turn. A B+ wasn’t good enough on a math test. He needed to get an A. Having a steady job wasn’t good enough. He needed to make six figures.
So, trying to fill the heart wound left by his father, Pedro started a career in financial services. Watch any movie about Wall Street, and you know the financial services industry is full of cut-throat strategies and high-performance goals.
Pedro even began investing in real estate on the side. His only motivation was to be more and more successful… except more was never enough. He made some risky investments and eventually ended up $3 million in debt.
The bottom fell out.
Do you know why? It was because Pedro was suffering from heart wounds.
Before becoming a successful coach for Christian women, Cherlyn Decker lived your typical, hectic corporate life. As a mother, she felt guilty for not spending enough time with kids. She felt that her company job left her unfulfilled, and she was embarrassed to admit that she was afraid to leave her cushy salary and benefits.
Cherlyn kept the inner mess hidden from her friends and family. But then she was laid off, and quickly hit rock bottom. She lost the security she held so tightly before. She spent weeks at home wondering what in the world she was going to do.
One day after being laid off, she was laying on the couch reading a coaching book. Her husband came in and said, “You know, you should do that.” All of a sudden, Cherlyn was struck with a renewed sense of purpose. Coaching WAS what she was supposed to do. The thing that was keepin her back was HER and HER FEARS. She was afraid of the “no,” the unanswered phone calls and rejections.
So, Cherlyn started sharing her story. She opened her mess up to the world. Not only did she share her mess, she shared how God was leading her out of her mess. And people responded. Now she’s running a successful coaching business for Christian women.
But looking back on that time, Cherlyn sees how that period of waiting changed her. God transformed her through the layoff. She couldn’t have started her new business without slowing down and listening for the truth.
Read on for Cherlyn’s top three tips for waiting on God, and how YOU can make the most of a season of rest.
Joe Condit is a successful serial entrepreneur and the founder of CatholicSpeakers.com. He shared with me his top three tips for conquering hardship.
1. Don’t Lose Focus on What’s Important.
Money can be stolen and public opinion can change overnight. Neither fortune nor fame lasts forever. Instead, faith is what lasts and carries you through the valleys of life.
One of life’s strongest temptations is to lose focus on faith when times are good. When we’re enjoying times of blessing, we become spiritually lazy. We worship God’s blessings instead of God himself. We make money an idol and make ourselves miserable in pursuit.
Then when we realize we’re miserable chasing money, we make the mistake of digging even deeper. We say, “Happiness is right there around the corner. I can almost see it.” However, worldly pleasure will never satisfy no matter how much you of it you get. The enemy is going to tempt you with everything he can: sex, porn, drugs, self-centeredness, money, overwork. Don’t believe the lie that “just a little bit more” will be enough.
People who focus on God above all have peace. People who focus on money and pleasure do not. True, godly business owners still have as many problems as the next person, but they have peace. When hardship comes, stay calm and don’t lose focus on God.
Earlier this year, my wife and I had our first child, a beautiful baby girl named Alora. She’s brought my little family so much joy. There’s no better feeling than holding her in my arms and telling her how much I care about her. But sometimes God brings us the greatest blessings through the hardest trials.
My wife suffered in labor for over 36 hours. I mean it when I say suffered. Every few minutes I would hear her cry out as another contraction pierced her body. There I was in the waiting room, and I felt utterly helpless. My inner control freak was on high alert. I had no idea if my wife or my new daughter would make it through the birth.
These were some of the hardest hours of my life. I know what you’re thinking, “Hey Joseph, what about your wife?” True, I can’t imagine the pain she was going through. But that doesn’t change the fact that I was the most scared and helpless I’d ever been.
Grant Cardone, the high-performing, no-nonsense entrepreneur and speaker, says, "I'm going to do anything and everything, remove every boulder, every hurdle and every problem out of my way to make my dreams come true."
As a man, that quote puts a spark in my blood. When I hear talk of overcoming hurdles and problems to achieve something truly meaningful, I’m ready to go.
Try it. Picture yourself as the underdog. Your eyes are focused. You wake up early to start making cold calls to get ahead of your competition. When a top prospect says no the first time, you keep pressing. You’re confident that your product is going to solve their main problem. And you make the sale.
Business is like a battle. It’s an arena men can enter to achieve success. So many men look up to entrepreneurs like Grant Cardone because he lives out this unapologetic masculinity.
A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Joe Trodden
Your definition of "business mindset" will determine whether you SUCCEED OR FAIL at entrepreneurship.
Don’t take this lightly, Startup Nation.
Mindset isn’t a yoga pose or an Instagram post with the sun coming up. Mindset isn’t about hustling yourself to death. Don’t think you can repeat a few mantras in the mirror and then see personal and financial growth.
A true business mindset comes down to “how you perceive the world and react to it.” That’s how my recent First 100K Podcast guest, Joe Trodden, defines it. Your business mindset involves “leadership, communication style, appetite for risk, all wrapped up into your neural networks.”
Basically, the choices you make and the way you act as a business owner are deeply connected to the way your brain is wired.
Joe provides a simple formula: success = depth of understanding of what’s going on in your mind.
By understanding your mind, you can change it to WORK FOR YOU, Startup Nation. Here’s how.
Women-focused business conferences are FAILING female entrepreneurs.
Jen DeVore Richter, a popular conference speaker and my guest on Your First 100k Podcast, just can’t believe the typical speaking topics.
Jen doesn’t see anything wrong with these topics, but… WHAT ABOUT THE MONEY?!
She calls these topics “soft subjects.” And women do a disservice to other women when they assume their peers only want to hear about soft subjects. THAT ASSUMPTION IS WRONG.
The reason most female entrepreneurs fail is because their business numbers fail. Their numbers fail because no one sits new entrepreneurs down to explain revenue, profit, and cashflow. Financial conversations are what Jen would call “hard subjects.” To all my female followers out there, I know you can handle that conversation!
It’s simple. Your revenues must be higher than your costs. The difference is profit. And profit has to be high enough to sustain a livable lifestyle for both you and your family.
Otherwise, your business model isn’t sustainable.
Maybe you didn’t get a business degree from college. That’s ok. Jen has helped hundreds of entrepreneurs get CLARITY on their financial situations, and she is willing to share her top tips with you right now.
A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Tim Storey
Imagine you’re hiring a new VP of sales for a Fortune 500 company. You’re deep into the first round of interviews.
Your secretary leads in the next candidate. He’s clearly in his 70s or 80s, not the fresh blood you were expecting to lead the department. But you can’t discriminate against age and you know it's good to keep an open mind.
You pull his resume out of a folder. To your astonishment, it shows no experience for the last 40 years. Ok, he managed a regional grocery store in rural Indiana. Looks like his father-in-law owned the flagship store and did a favor for a family member.
You move to his application file. He’s checked the “felony” box. For murder.
Question: Do you hire this man as VP of Sales?
God “hires” the most unlikely people
Would you believe it if I told you that the story above describes Moses from the Bible? The same Moses who freed Israel from Egyptian slavery? The same man who almost saw the face of God?
It’s true. Moses spent forty years of his life herding sheep in the wilderness. God called him to free the Israelites at 80 years old. When he was younger, Moses killed a man.
My friend and coach extraordinaire, Tim Storey, explains what God is doing with improbable candidates like Moses. Tim says, “God uses shaky people to do sturdy projects. As you abide in him you’ll grow stronger, and stronger, and stronger each day.”
God uses broken, lowly, frightened people to do his good work.
Moses isn’t the only example. Saint Paul imprisoned and killed people before his conversion. Rahab was a former prostitute who is listed in the genealogy of Jesus. When we first come upon Gideon, who later becomes a heroic Israelite commander, he’s hiding from his oppressors in a wine press.
What about you? Have you ever felt like your personal resumé disqualifies you from important work?
Maybe you think, “My family life is so messed up, I could never be a dad.” Or, “If anyone knew about my addictions, I’d be shunned from every social group imaginable!”
Startup Nation, here’s the truth…
God does not treat us as our sins deserve
WHAT A RELIEF!
Tim Storey explains, “God isn’t looking at you with a magnifying glass to expose your weaknesses.” He wants to embrace us with his life-changing love.
I understand the church gets a bad rap for blaming “sinners” like you and me. The church sometimes says that if you fix yourself, then God will love you. If you obey perfectly, then God will accept you.
Don’t believe this lie. The opposite is true.
God first accepts you, inviting you into a relationship with him. This love is what transforms your life. It's what gives you the strength to do good and love others. Earlier in this post, I mentioned all those Bible characters. The thing that set them apart from your average person was that they trusted God. God asked them to follow him and they did. They didn’t have everything figured out. They just trusted God step by step.
Coaches like Tim and me like to model our coaching off God's example. I’d say God provides a pretty good blueprint.
In Tim's approach, he doesn’t bring up weaknesses until week 3 or 4. Instead, he focuses on the person’s strengths. He discusses the nature of God and who he is. And the Bible says that God is love.
Tim is known as the “Pastor to the Stars.” He’s walked alongside celebrities like Robert Downey Jr. and Kanye West. He takes broken people on a journey toward Jesus. Healing happens on this journey. It’s where true success lies.
If you're struggling with a checkered past, here’s a practical question for you: What’s working in your life?
I use this question to start my coaching sessions. It shifts the conversation away from shame toward positive things. I know for a fact that you’re doing something right in your business life. I know that no matter how bad your relationship is, there’s something you still do that makes your spouse smile.
What is it? Make a list of three positive things that are working in your life and post that list above your desk. Meditate on the things that are working. After all, God is working in your life. And he is good.
God uses shaky people to do sturdy projects. As you abide in him you’ll grow stronger, and stronger, and stronger each day.
If you’re ready, I want to build you up and encourage you in your business, family, and faith. I can help you reclaim your joy and start on a journey back to God.
It’s time for a Spiritual Clarity Call.
It’s simple. You and I will jump on a no-cost, 45-minute Zoom call. We will find a time that’s convenient for you.
Typically, a coaching call like this would run about $500. For you, it’s free.
Obviously, the benefits of a Spiritual Clarity Call go much deeper. On our call, we can discuss one or two actionable steps for realigning your personal life with your business life.
After a full coaching boot camp, my clients have avoided devastating divorces, escaped long-term addictions, and overcome serious depression. My clients have also negotiated raises at work, rediscovered their life purposes, and reconnected with their kids. Over time, these positive changes could save you $1,000s.
But both you and I know that your life isn’t measured by a price tag. Your life is about the people you love and the purpose for which you were created. If you feel like you’re missing out in either of these areas, we need to talk.
Ready to get clarity on your life? Click the button below and set up a Spiritual Clarity Call.
Pastor And World-Class Coach, Tim Storey, Shatters The Source Of Your Anxious Desires With One Simple Truth
A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Tim Storey
Tim Storey is known as the “Pastor to the Stars.” He works with celebrities like Oprah, Robert Downey Jr., and Kanye West. He’s one of the most thoughtful, genuine men I know.
Recently, he shared a lifechanging lesson about slowing down and overcoming anxiety. A stranger taught him this lesson, and it has been so inspirational to him that he thinks about this person every week.
I can promise you, Startup Nation, this person is not who you’d expect.
Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, And Albert Einstein All Share This One Disadvantage. Learn How People Like Them Turn Disadvantages Into Entrepreneurial Superpowers.
A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Sean Casto
When Sean Casto was younger, he felt like an outcast becuase of his dyslexia. He had to take his tests in a different room with the other “different” kids. He felt confused and ashamed when the school assistant called his name and asked him to leave class on test days.
Because he couldn’t read as well as his friends, Sean started wondering if he was smart at all. Did he have the same value as other students? Would he ever be successful?
Then a teacher changed his perspective forever.
She reframed his dyslexia from a negative into a positive. She said that his brain was processing information a little too fast. Sometimes the words on the page got mixed up. This meant it was hard for Sean to articulate the thoughts, ideas, and facts he was reading. But she told him that in a few years, his brain would adjust and his fast-processing brain would become a powerful tool.
After a little digging, Sean discovered that many successful businesspeople had dyslexia. Elon Musk, Steve Jobs, and Albert Einstein are just a few. What role models!
This encouraged Sean. He developed a new perspective on life. He saw his “disadvantages” as superpowers and it gave him the confidence to become a successful entrepreneur. Now he runs an app marketing platform that makes over $2 million in revenue each year.
Now before you read the next section, ask yourself this question, “What is your biggest disadvantage?”
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About Joseph Warren
Joseph Warren is a Christian Speaker, Podcast Host and Spiritual Coach. Joseph Warren offers Spiritual Coaching to Christian Business Owners who somehow find themselves in a spiritual rut. In just 90 days, he helps them avoid expensive divorces, break free from addiction, restore broken family relationships, and start living their Higher Purpose!