A Conversation with Joseph Warren and Niajae Wallace
Have you ever come home for Christmas dinner, and your eggnog wielding uncle Tim asks, "So how's the remote control airplane hobby?"
Remote control airplanes?!? That was your junior year of high school. Over the past twenty years you've been running a seven-figure startup that refurbishes vintage furniture. You just broke up with your fiancé. You completed your 20th ultra-marathon.
But despite the person you are now, you're just a remote control airplane enthusiast to Uncle Tim.
Startup Nation, it's sad when family, friends, and colleagues only know us for our past selves. A few months back, I hosted Niajae Wallace on Your First 100k Podcast. Now a motivational speaker and entrepreneur, she has had friends say, "We can't play games with Niajae, she always cheats at cards."
Umm... that was 10 years ago.
Niajae’s one piece of life advice
Near the end of her podcast episode, I asked Niajae what one piece of advice she’d give friends and family if she could come back from the dead.
She said, “Love people as they are, not who they were.”
Startup Nation, this sentence has the power to change your life. It will transform your business, your relationships with clients, and the quality of your family life. Listen up!
“We’re all growing and evolving,” Niajae says, “and it’s important to treat people as they are: the new, improved, evolved version and not hold on to who they were.”
When I was in my teens, I sold cars for two weeks. My mom still thinks of me as a car salesman. For all my failures, successes, and growth, it’s a crime that she mostly knows me as my past self.
While you can't control how others see you, you can control how you treat others. Here are some practical action points for applying Niajae's wisdom bomb to your life.
Loving others for who they are doesn't just mean acknowledging their recent MBA degree. It means seeing them for who they are as a person. Again, "love people as they are, not who they were." We can do this in three ways:
Don’t forget to love yourself
Startup Nation, love yourself as you are, not who you were.
Entrepreneurs often forget to love themselves. We have high standards: making clients happy, hitting revenue targets, and creating innovative products. When we miss those marks, we get down on ourselves.
Then there’s our personal lives. We’ve all failed and messed up. Some of us are addicts. Some are workaholics. Some have anger issues and some have cheated on spouses. Many of my clients suffer from debilitating negative thoughts. One client used to spend the first five minutes of every day telling himself he was crap, a fraud, a wannabe, and every other possible insult.
But think about the person you were five years ago. Look at the progress! And if you’re not proud of who you are, it’s not the end of the world. You are created in the image of God. You are loved by God. It’s not something you lost in the past, and it’s not something you have to strive for in the future. You are a precious son or daughter of the universe’s creator.
You are loved. Right now. Accept and love others right where they are. Then believe in where they can go.
If you’d like to talk more about loving yourself and others or if you don’t believe that you’re loved by God (but you’d like to), then let’s schedule a Spiritual Clarity Call. It’s free. It’s 45 minutes. It could transform your life.
Startup Nation, Niajae dropped some serious business wisdom in this episode of Your First 100k. If you want tips on scaling your business and diversifying revenue streams, you have to check it out.
About Joseph Warren
Joseph Warren is a Christian Speaker, Podcast Host and Spiritual Coach. Joseph Warren offers Spiritual Coaching to Christian Business Owners who somehow find themselves in a spiritual rut. In just 90 days, he helps them avoid expensive divorces, break free from addiction, restore broken family relationships, and start living their Higher Purpose!