As a spiritual coach, I’ve helped dozens of business owners tear down and replace negative mindsets. Most of these perspectives come from childhood wounds. To some extent, every person has internalized messages from family and friends. We also listen to lies our culture tells us about ourselves. Sometimes the lies are so pervasive that we don’t realize we’re acting out of these negative spaces.
Time and time again, I’ve seen clients wrestle with three, distinct mindsets. These mindsets hold them back in their businesses and personal lives.
Entrepreneurs have big egos. We’re often self-centered and prideful. And it makes sense. If you don’t believe in yourself, are you really going to think you can change the world? Without an ego, it’s hard to say, “I can create a product that’s better than every other product out there. It’s up to me to make a difference.”
But the thing is, pride is not the same as confidence. We often confuse the two.
My spiritual life coaching clients come into sessions believing that their success and intelligence makes them better than other people.
“I’m so good at selling my product,” they say, “that it gives me the right to put other people down.”
They don’t say it this bluntly, but it’s how they live.
Egos like this are actually emotional walls. They’re defenses. Perhaps you've been hurt in your romantic lives, so you seek affirmation in corporate sales. Perhaps your father was strict, and ego is a way to cope with skewed family expectations.
Strengths can’t compensate for your insecurities. Don’t get me wrong, I’m thrilled that you’re a wizard at growing businesses. But your big ego is why you’re pushing people away! And it’s why you’re miserable.
I’ve been there. I’ve struggled with my ego my whole life. And I’m happy to talk with you about in on a Spiritual Clarity Call.
When you can’t face your own weaknesses and wounds, you’re living a lie. It’s that simple. When you cover the shameful areas of your life in darkness, you can’t be your whole self. More often than not, it’s a prideful ego that casts the dark shadow.
Who are you and what are you meant to do on this planet?
Can you answer that question? And if you can, do you know how to make it happen?
As a spiritual life coach, I cannot live your life for you. I’m Joseph Warren and I can only be Joseph Warren. You are you. But I can see you and ask you questions that reveal your life’s calling.
One of my favorite books is The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. It’s been a huge inspiration in my life. In the first chapter, Rick writes, “The purpose of your life is far greater than your own personal fulfillment, your peace of mind, or even your happiness. It’s far greater than your family, your career, or even your wildest dreams and ambitions. IF you want to know why you were placed on this planet, you must begin with God. You were born by his purpose and for his purpose.”
Our culture says the complete opposite. You should be free to do whatever you want and no one should tell you otherwise, right? And yet we’re seeing high rates of depression and even suicide across the board. People are more confused than ever.
Maybe it’s time for a shift in thinking. And maybe a new way of thinking will bring brilliant clarity to your unique life purpose.
I’m talking about “The Hussle.” If you’ve listened to Your First 100k Podcast, you’ll know I love “The Hustle Round” where I ask my guests a series of quick-fire questions. But I’m not talking about “The Hustle Round.”
I’m talking about the dread you feel going to sleep exhausted knowing you have twice as much to do tomorrow. The meetings that never end. The employee issues that never get resolved. The sales that flatlined last quarter (and you just can’t find the defibrillator).
The hustle is real. You’ve got to work to build a business from nothing. You’ve got to work hard to gain the respect of others in and outside your industry.
But what most people don’t realize is that hustling has become their god. They lay everything at the feet of the grind. Family. Friends. Their relationship with the true God.
You can’t imagine how many people I’ve seen run themselves into the ground working. And they didn’t need to!
The single answer to these faulty mindsets
Ok, here it is.
God is speaking to us all the time. But we’re so caught up in our own lives that we can’t hear Him. We’re working. Pursuing romance. Paying bills.
All important stuff, don’t get me wrong!
But so often we replace God with idols. Self. Success. Work. Or we pray and won’t shut up. We’re so busy bringing God our worries and plans that we don’t listen to Him.
Stop. Take a deep breath. Listen.
Although listening doesn’t come naturally to most people, I encourage you to try. Let God speak his truth into your life. If you struggle with ego, let God show you the meaning of humility. If you struggle with confusion, let God quietly speak his plan for your life. If you struggle with the hustle, let God remind you that He will take care of you.
Maybe you’ve never prayed before in your life. That’s ok. Just find a quiet place and say, “God, here I am. I’m listening. I want to hear from you.” You might just be surprised at what you hear.
I thought Startup Nation would like to hear the top three mindsets that keep entrepreneurs down.
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